Unwritten rules regarding titles can shift over time, leading to discomfort for individuals who feel their role is undermined. In this scenario, a grandmother expressed her unease when her grandson began referring to his grandfather's girlfriend as "Nonna," a term reserved for her. Although her preference was initially honored by her son and daughter-in-law, it appears that perceptions have changed. The grandson may be interpreting the term in a broader sense, adopting it for multiple grandmother figures instead of assigning it uniquely to her.
The problem with unwritten rules is, you guessed it, they're not recorded in writing, so time and circumstance tend to shift them around.
Your son and daughter-in-law honored your preference regarding titles, but somehow things have shifted.
It's possible that your grandson has started to think of grandmother figures in general as Nonnas and is using it as a blanket term.
Your feelings are valid, as living grandmothers with relationships to their grandchildren may feel uncomfortable with shared nicknames.
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