"It's clear that the pain from this estrangement is still a powerful force in your life, and I'm sorry. Not being able to have a resolving conversation even if that conversation leads to the end of a relationship keeps an emotional wound open. It can be disempowering and frustrating. As you prepare for this next wedding, think about the reality of your relationship in the present (or lack thereof) and what your ideal interaction would be, given those parameters."
"If I could offer a gentle nudge: Given the snubbing and their 20 years of estrangement, for you the ideal might be no interaction at all. Think about the needs you have you want to feel safe emotionally at this wedding. Even saying hello might result in bruised feelings or worse. However, if you decide that the healthiest thing to do might be focusing on the relationships you have with other relatives and enjoying the wedding with them, you'll go into"
A husband's brother and his wife cut off contact two decades ago, labeling the separation permanent and alleging excessive insensitivity. They severed ties with the couple's access to their young children and resisted apologies. One brother-in-law publicly snubbed the wife at a wedding five years ago, and another family wedding approaches, causing dread. The advised approach is to assess the present reality of the relationship and prioritize emotional safety. The recommendation favors minimal or no interaction given long-standing estrangement and prior snubbing. Focusing on supportive extended-family relationships and enjoying the event is suggested as a healthier choice.
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