"I was 25 when I married a twice-divorced man in his 40s and agreed to something I now regret. Because his previous marriages had failed due to his cheating, he proposed that we have a "limited open marriage," in which he could have sex with other women when he was traveling on business. At the time, he would go to a couple of conventions each year and a few short, out-of-state trips."
"It seemed reasonable to me, and I didn't ask for reciprocity since I couldn't imagine wanting to have sex with anyone else. Although I had a lot of sexual experience, I had never actually been in love and I was head over heels. Fast forward a couple of decades, and he is now on the road more often than he is at home and I am sex starved."
A woman agreed to a limited open marriage allowing her husband sexual partners while traveling after his prior infidelities. Decades later he travels more, maintains several long-term outside partners, and she is sex-starved despite good sexual chemistry at home. She seeks reciprocal permission to pursue ethical non-monogamy, but he insists on the original agreement. Cheating remains wrong even when agreements are unequal. Consensual nonmonogamy requires allowing partners to change their minds. Denying equity and the ability to renegotiate undermines consent and creates unfairness in the relationship.
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