I Feel Bad for My Buddy Who Is Going Through a Breakup. But He Can't Keep Sending Me These Horny Videos.

"The first thing you can try is to just like the posts he's sending. Assuming you're receiving these via a texting app, a thumbs-up emoji on each can telegraph, I see that you sent something and I don't really care or have anything to say about it, but that's really nice for you that you found stuff you thought was worth sharing. Enough thumbs without explicit commentary from you and he may get the hint. That's if he wants to take it, though."

"If you see no change in frequency or quality of his messages, just don't respond to the ones of the baddies. Play it like you never saw them. Only respond to him when he sends you messages that don't involve voluptuous displays. That's another hint you can give him."

"Another route you can take is a white lie. My girlfriend saw that last reel you sent, and now she's pissed, so could you not send them?, gives you an excuse without having to explain anything about yourself. Depending on how close you are to this guy, you might want to give your girlfriend the heads-up in case the subject comes up and/or she feels misrepresented by this."

A friend sends frequent thirst-trap reels after a breakup, creating discomfort for someone in a long-term relationship. A low-friction approach is to like the posts with a thumbs-up emoji to signal acknowledgment without inviting further conversation. If the messages continue, the recipient should stop responding to the reels entirely and only reply to messages that do not involve explicit displays. Another option is to use a white lie that frames the behavior as causing trouble with the recipient’s partner, such as claiming the girlfriend is upset and asking him not to send them. If appropriate, the recipient should warn the girlfriend so she is prepared if the topic comes up.

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