"After all, I am a divorced woman who couldn't make it work with my ex-husband. But what they are actually saying to me, without even realizing it, is "I did nothing wrong and I have not grown at all. I didn't treat my wife right and I won't treat you right. I take no responsibility. I don't self-reflect and I'm not self aware.""
"Sometimes it's that he wants me to completely fit into his world without putting in an ounce of effort to fit into mine. It needs to be convenient for these men. Easy. They want a woman to be beside them but to also keep her mouth shut. There should be no challenging them or asking for anything. They don't have the emotional capacity to put in any effort after say, the first month."
Men frequently open dates by blaming their ex-wives as "crazy" and claim to be blindsided when relationships end. That behaviour indicates lack of self-reflection, refusal to take responsibility, and stagnation in emotional growth. Patterns include addiction, gaslighting, insisting partners conform to their world without reciprocal effort, and emotional unavailability after initial months. The narrator has repeatedly tried patience, gentle requests, and withdrawing to match energy, but encounters the same issues. Many single women report identical experiences across social circles and social media, and some influencers are trying to coach healthier behavior, yet unwillingness to change remains a barrier to lasting relationships.
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