"He plays some sort of male self-insert character who goes out and acquires a harem of sexually submissive female characters who are willing to gradually be corrupted into accepting a wide variety of sexual demands from his character. This development worries me. I know that we're supposed to separate our fantasy life from our in-the-flesh life, but this definitely seems telling. He seems to view women as sex objects, and disposable ones at that, or ones to be hoarded."
"Dear Game Over, I wouldn't. He's being open and sharing his desires with you at the risk of your judgement and ... you're judging him. Your concerns are understandable and maybe even fair, but unless you are noticing him attempting to coerce you into an actual harem-slash-life of submission, you could really chalk this up to fantasy play, as he suggests."
"A defensive reaction to the confrontation you describe could mean that he has something to hide, but it could also mean that he feels unfairly criticized for what he sees as an innocent diversion. Look, I understand when people (especially women) are not willing to give men the benefit of the doubt, and you're under no obligation to do so."
A partner expresses concern after noticing her boyfriend prefers interactive pornographic games in which a male self-insert builds a harem of sexually submissive women who are gradually corrupted into accepting diverse sexual demands. She worries this fantasy indicates objectification, disposability, or hoarding of women and fears potential manipulation. The boyfriend insists these preferences are mere fantasy and becomes defensive when confronted. A defensive response can signal secrecy or a sense of unfair criticism. Absent real-world coercion or attempts to impose a harem-like dynamic, fantasy play alone does not automatically justify ending the relationship; personal comfort and safety should guide decisions.
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