Unlike Taylor Swift, I argue with my partner every day. We've been together for 30 years.

"First, they've only been together for two years, most of it long-distance, during her almost two-year "Eras" tour spanning 149 shows across five continents, while Travis played a total of 31 regular-season games in the last two seasons, not to mention the hours spent in training, recovery, and travelling to see each other. It's amazing they had time to share a dance onstage, grab dinner, "knock on wood," and do a few cute podcasts together."

"As a bestselling author of books my family hates and writing professor in a successful union with someone I adore for 30 years, I felt like screaming: "That's the opposite of a healthy message to give your children, friends, and fans!" To leave Hollywood fantasy for a truly fulfilling and realistic connection, it's crucial to be able to speak up, disagree with your partner, express yourself amiably, and still feel cherished and appreciated."

I admire Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce for mutual support, kindness to staff, and charitable actions, but disagree with their claim they never argue. I have been happily married for 30 years and helped fix up 30 marriages, so I find zero-argument claims unrealistic, especially amid demanding tour and play schedules. Healthy partnerships require the ability to speak up, disagree amiably, express needs, and still feel cherished and appreciated. Avoiding conflict encourages silence and repression of needs, which undermines long-term connection and sets an unhealthy example for children and friends.

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