"If people aren't laughing during my memorial, you've done it wrong," my father told us for years, long before his death. "Funerals are inherently sad; for mine, cut the treacle a bit with humor." He thought a lot about funerals. Growing up, death was a dinner table conversation at our house almost every night, because my dad was an estate planning attorney. He always protected his clients' privacy, but would bring the lessons home: Never fight with your siblings over money.