I made it clear from the start that I was strictly vers (I need it all) and that I couldn't be in an exclusive bottom/top relationship long-term. However, for one reason or another, I've only bottomed from the start. It was only once he stated that he was, to my surprise, a vers top and interested in exploring bottoming with me that I even opened up to an emotional relationship with him.
Why do people want romantic relationships, if they do at all? The world today operates with a strong bias towards people being in, not out, of relationships (think "table for two?"). As a component of this bias is a presumption that if you're not in a relationship, you want to be. How do we understand this assumption? To what degree is it accurate? What does "wanting" a relationship mean?