#sex-toys

#sex-toys

From the way we talk (or don't talk) about women's pleasure, to how badly the clitoris has been ignored in medical research, Alix explains why so many women struggle to climax with a partner, even when they can reach orgasm quickly on their own. They talk about widening our idea of what "sex" actually is, moving away from just penetration as the main event and towards a much richer definition of intimacy, touch and pleasure.

Most of us received minimal, awkward, or fear-based sex education. We had to learn in small, fragmented ways, like ripping open the sealed section of a Dolly magazine or attempting to find things out from our peers (who were honestly just as clueless as we were). Pleasure was rarely, if ever, discussed and our bodies were seen as problems we needed to fix or manage.

Q: I've decided to treat my partner to a sexy weekend away in the new year, and I'd like to buy some toys to bring along to really spice things up. I haven't used them before, so I'm not sure where to start. She has tried some of the bullet vibrators before but said she didn't really like it. I don't have a lot of experience in this area before my current partner so I'm a bit lost as to where to start,

Let's navigate this via your motherly empathy and intuition. If you suspect your daughter would be mortified were you to share your inter-sheets discovery, don't do it. Let her come to you. A cockring is small enough that it's not going to be a burden to store-it can go in a junk drawer in the guest room or, if you want to be so discreet so that no one else in your residence might casually see it when searching for a highlighter or AA battery,

Giving a sexy present requires careful consideration. If you proffer a heavy-duty vibrator, piece of bondage gear or other bit of serious kit, the recipient may feel obliged to use it with you straight away so as not to look ungrateful even if they're secretly a tad intimidated, or aren't ready to get freaky before the leftover turkey's been turned into stir-fry.

A recent study by sexy toy brand Lelo found that 41 per cent of British men have used a sex toy and, according to Smile Makers, more women in the UK own a vibrator than a dishwasher. Still, the world isn't exactly stigma-free regarding pleasure products, and it's a reasonable request not to want attention drawn to your favourite toys.

A monthly lingerie subscription box is sure to keep things spicy. This small, Canadian-based lingerie retailer has human-curated lingerie subscription boxes and size-inclusive lingerie (they carry bra sizes A-M and panties XS-4XL). When beginning the lingerie subscription service, you fill out a style quiz that asks you a series of questions about style preferences and a human stylist creates a unique box for you or your lover.

The fact that I'm in an LTR with a partner who knows I'm bi, is fine with me exploring with other guys, allows to me seeing professional dominants, and has experimented with me over the course of our relationship is probably all down to what I have learned reading your column and listening to your podcast, Dan. Given all the other things I've indulged in, chastity play would seem like a pretty simple one to cross off, except for one thing: my anatomy.

Step aside, holiday stress - pleasure is so much merrier. Enter: We-Vibe's 2025 Advent Calendars. Filled with daily packages to unwrap, the saucy gifts inside range from blindfolds to handcuffs to premium vibrators and more. These calendars are made to spark erotic adventures for both couples and solos, whether you're a newbie to naughty gadgets or a master of kink. And for a limited time, Bustle readers get exclusive access to a site-wide discount code.

The new collection features a cherry-red double-sided vibrator plus some silicon lube, to make sure everything goes smoothly, and there will reportedly be a partnership with Planned Parenthood Federation of America to release special condoms, too.

Your husband's sex toy is not necessarily a reflection of how he feels about sex with you, so the best way to approach this is to give him the benefit of the doubt.

The Sona 2 Cruise is ideal for direct clitoral stimulation. Whether solo or with a partner, this stimulator delivers extreme pleasure with 12 intensity settings for maximum control.

"Dual stimulation toys are really tricky, because everyone's body is different," says Stella Harris, certified intimacy educator, coach, and author of Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships.

This rose-shaped clitoral stimulator features 10 powerful vibration functions and a splash-proof design, embodying pleasure and convenience for an unforgettable experience.