A previous post summarized the many myths about desire differences and the sex- therapy approach to resolving them-using either self-help or professional therapy. The sex-therapy program helps many couples-but not all. Recently, Canadian researchers reported an effective new approach, eight weeks of group therapy that produced significant benefits. It's based on reimagining lovemaking to facilitate sex worth wanting. What if Low Desire Is a Reasonable Response to Lackluster Sex?
"How often should we be having sex?" I hear this question at least once a week. From my therapy room to my circles of friends to social media. This question is out there, lingering. And like most people, I've seen countless opinions. I'm not here to offer another one or add to the confusion or pressure. Instead, I want to explain why this is the wrong question to be asking in the first place.