#swinging

#swinging

Soft swapping sits in the gray area between monogamy and full partner exchange. Unlike traditional swinging, soft swappers set rules around what acts they can engage in with others.

First of all, let me put your mind at ease. Having this thought does not make you a villain. It makes you a long-term partnered adult with a pulse. Most people don't wake up one morning and think, "Ah yes, swinging - this will clearly solve everything." Curiosity like this usually shows up more quietly. It's often less about wanting other people and more about wanting something back: playfulness, aliveness, the feeling that sex is still a place of discovery.

When I am with said people, we are both fully enjoying ourselves, but it is impossible for me to climax. At first, I thought maybe it was just nerves or my partner didn't have a technique that matched my desires (not a problem, that's where communication comes in!), but even after we part, neither my husband nor I can get me to climax.