The article explores the often unspoken challenges of marriage as shared by married women in the BuzzFeed Community. Key issues include feeling unheard due to differing communication styles, the evolution of both partners over time, and unexpected hardships such as loss. Women reflected on the struggles of connecting in a busy household, adapting to changes in their spouses, and coping with grief after a partner's death. Despite these challenges, there were also uplifting sentiments about growth and companionship, highlighting that marriage can still bring joy and fulfillment.
We're pretty happy; we laugh at the same things, and there's a lot of camaraderie, but sometimes, I don't feel listened to. We have a 'loud house' in that my husband is a talker and likes to bring up whatever's on his mind the moment it pops into his head. I could be pooping, and I'll hear, 'Honey! Are you there? I want to tell you something!' It's a lot. Sometimes, when I need to talk to HIM, getting his attention is hard because his head is so busy. I feel kind of ignored, even though I know it's not his intention. ' I'll say, 'Please stop right there and listen to me now.' He'll apologize, and I'll say what I need to. Our modes of communication are pretty different, but it's a work in progress.
No one tells you that you can potentially marry several different people when you say I do. As the years pass, that person will evolve into several different people - especially if you marry young like I did. Personalities are forming; goals are changing. In the end, the person may become totally different from the one you married. You may also be different. This is currently happening in my marriage. Luckily for me and my partner, we are soulmates and have embraced the new people we have become/becoming.
I lost my husband two years ago after his leukemia diagnosis. The hardest part for me is the loss. I don't understand when people say marriage is hard and takes work because mine did not. He was in law enforcement for over 30 years and helped countless people daily. After his passing, I married a kind soul who is still taking care of me daily. I truly hope I'm not in the minority who don't feel marriage is hard. Mine was a joy, filled with laughter and compassion.
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