"I need help figuring out how to tell my kids I am non-monogamous. I've been non-monogamous for over five years and have been married for nearly fifteen years. My husband and I have three kids together, the oldest of which is now 14. My husband and I have not been sexually active for nearly eight years, but we're best friends, fabulous co-parents, and wonderful nesting partners, and I still love him very much."
"My husband, dad, sister, and friends have all met and like him. I love him very much. But my kids do not know that their mom is non-monogamous! Being ethical is very important to me and telling them that I am "just going to see a friend" is wearing me down. I am concerned my oldest see might his mom holding hands with someone who isn't his dad or hear from a friend who saw us."
The parent has been non-monogamous for over five years while married for nearly fifteen years and co-parents three children, the oldest being fourteen. The marital partners have not been sexually active for nearly eight years but remain best friends, fabulous co-parents, and nesting partners who still love each other. The parent reclaimed sexuality six years ago and has a nearly four-year relationship with another man who is known and liked by close family and friends. The children do not know about the non-monogamous arrangement, and the parent values ethical honesty but is tired of saying "just going to see a friend." The parent fears the oldest might witness affectionate behavior or learn from peers and worries about feelings of betrayal or permanent changes to the parent-child relationship.
Read at Portland Mercury
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