He would back her into a corner and verbally abuse her for hours. And sometimes Sandra responded in ways that she now regrets-shouting at Gary, throwing things, and slamming doors in frustration. She separated from him to protect herself and the children from Gary's outbursts and coercive control. She was shocked when Gary filed for a protective order, claiming that she had abused him.
After I moved in, he became a lot more vocal about his expectations of me as a wife. He's no longer the sweet, romantic guy I dated over the years. His idea of chivalry is telling me that I have no need for male friends because he's the only man I need. His idea of romance is reminding me that I am his forever and always.