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16 hours agoLearning to Speak Up When You Were Taught That Your Feelings Don't Matter - Tiny Buddha
Clear, assertive communication can be learned, and past upbringing can explain why someone struggles to speak up.
In childhood, we lack the emotional and cognitive maturity to fully understand the harm that comes from those we depend on for safety and love. To cope with fear, helplessness, and confusion, many of us blamed ourselves. This self-blame can create a false sense of control in a chaotic environment and allows us to preserve an emotional bond with caregivers, even if those caregivers are also the source of harm.