"Perfectionism often entails a battle with the universe. Much of the perfectionist's resentment toward others can be thought of as a resentment toward life. Some perfectionists have autism, while others may meet the diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personalities."
"At the heart of perfectionism, whether right or wrong, is a sense of order or justice. While many of these individuals present with the appearance of moral superiority, many also attempt to apply the notion of fairness across the board, exhibiting deep empathy for others."
"Other-oriented perfectionism highlights an inability to tolerate disappointment from others, especially when something feels owed. On the one hand, it's easy to dismiss perfectionists as entitled; but, on the other, it's unfair to solely blame them for their needs."
"Their sensitivities tend to mean high expectations, so they may expect others to always acknowledge how much they're struggling, assuming they easily can. So, when upset, they tend to lash out, feeling justified in their punishments."
Other-oriented perfectionism is characterized by extreme demands placed on others, often stemming from a deeper resentment toward life itself. Perfectionists may struggle with mental health disorders, including autism and narcissistic tendencies, and often feel misunderstood. Their high expectations lead to a lack of empathy for others, as they expect acknowledgment of their struggles. While they may exhibit moral superiority and deep empathy, their inability to tolerate disappointment can result in self-centered behavior and unjustified lashing out when upset.
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