My previous posts on agreements between relationship partners have focused on sexual agreements, the rules or understandings couples form related to sex with partners outside their relationship (Cain & Starks, 2024). Almost two decades of research has examined the types of sexual agreements couples form, challenges with sexual agreement formation, and associations between sexual agreements and sexual behavior outcomes (most notably sexual HIV transmission risk, use of sexual risk reduction strategies, and drug use). Our recent paper (Starks & Cain, 2025), published in Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice, extends this work on behavioral agreements to substance use.
You're making an assumption about your wife's position on alcohol that might not be accurate. Is it really that she thinks a bottle of wine in the house means one of you will end up addicted? Or could it be that the sight of someone drinking, or even the smell of alcohol, brings up upsetting memories for her? Is it possible that it takes a lot for her to resist drinking, and she doesn't want to have to use that willpower at home?
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