You didn't just lose a husband-you also folded yourself into his family's grief and stood beside them through their darkest moments. Those ties don't simply disappear because life moves forward. Knowing that firsthand, I want to acknowledge the very human dilemma you are facing. You're balancing loyalty to someone who has been family for a long time with the commitment you are now making to a new partner. These are not simple emotional shifts. They require courage, clarity, empathy, and a whole lot of heart.
It's been a theme in letters I've seen this year-adults complaining that children aren't processing the difficult things they go through in the way the adults want them to. 15 is a really hard age for a lot of kids, let alone for those who've seen two fathers exit their lives (to varying degrees). He's processing a ton of changes in his own life, possibly entering high school, and he shouldn't feel responsible for the feelings of his ex-step-grandparents.
I see nothing positive to be gained by punishing your daughter and your 6- and 8-year-old grandchildren, who have offered viable alternatives, because their father is uncomfortable with your sexual orientation. Let your daughter visit and bring the children. Foster a strong relationship with all of them. If you succeed, your narrow-minded son-in-law may find himself increasingly marginalized.
I care about her deeply, but taking on someone else's debt even someone I love feels like a huge risk. I've worked hard to protect my own credit, and the idea of being on the hook for a car that isn't mine stresses me out. When I tried to express my hesitation, she acted hurt and suggested it meant I didn't trust her. That's not true at all. I'm more than willing
FRANKLIN'S VOICE: Hello, Joseph. Trouble? JOSEPH'S VOICE: Looks like we'll have to send someone down. There are a lot of people asking for help for a man named Larry Carlat. FRANKLIN'S VOICE: Larry Carlat? Yes! Tonight's his crucial night. You're right. We'll have to send someone down immediately. Whose turn is it? JOSEPH'S VOICE: That's why I came to see you, sir. It's that little restaurant manager's turn again.
"If people aren't laughing during my memorial, you've done it wrong," my father told us for years, long before his death. "Funerals are inherently sad; for mine, cut the treacle a bit with humor." He thought a lot about funerals. Growing up, death was a dinner table conversation at our house almost every night, because my dad was an estate planning attorney. He always protected his clients' privacy, but would bring the lessons home: Never fight with your siblings over money.
Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, a clinical psychologist and author of "You, Your Husband, and His Mother" (out on November 4), told Business Insider that, in her nearly 20 years of experience, a common theme has been married couples wanting to build stronger relationships with their extended families. More often, daughters-in-law desired to get along better with their mothers-in-law. Dalgleish said women tend to be in charge of communicating and organizing events on behalf of the family.
When dorms closed in 2020, I was a freshman with nowhere to go. I moved in with my older sister and her new boyfriend, "Patrick." Patrick owned a home with a spare bedroom, and it seemed to make sense. He kissed me after I'd been living there for a week, and we had an affair that lasted nearly two months.
I made choices that widened the distance between my mom and my daughter. My daughter's mom died when she was just 3 years and 5 months old in January 2001. When I remarried a year and a half later in July 2002, my wife's family became the center of all family gatherings. Since they lived closer than my mom, my daughter naturally gravitated more toward her stepmom's side.
Nobody, not even Jim Jarmusch himself, seemed to think his latest, Father Mother Sister Brother, had a shot at winning the Golden Lion at the Venice Film Festival earlier this month. Not because the film wasn't terrific - it was - but because it was so modest, minimalist, and odd, a true curiosity amid an awards-season-friendly lineup of big titles defined by their ambition and/or their hard-hitting urgency.
In The Book of Sheen, released Tuesday, the Two and a Half Men star wrote that there's "not enough room in my car" for dating right now. In an interview with Page Six published in time with the release, the actor shared that he hasn't had a girlfriend in almost a decade, prompting the interviewer to ask if that meant he'd been celibate.
I don't know what to do about the relationship between my children. My son is the eldest and my daughter is three years younger. He is so horrible to her and nothing I do or say makes any difference. He tells her what to do all the time and sneers whenever she says anything. He makes jokes about her to his friends and just never misses an opportunity to put her down.
During the pandemic, Hunter (not his real name) went so stir-crazy from the isolation of lockdown that he bought an online DNA test, just to have something to do. Then his results came back indicating significant Ashkenazi heritage. That was odd: neither of his parents were Jewish-or so he thought. He called his mother, who confessed to having had an affair with a man Hunter had known, all his life, as a family friend, who would occasionally drop off hand-me-downs, clothes his sons had outgrown.
"My father voted for Trump in 2016, even though I made it clear to him that he would try to get rid of Obamacare, which prevented insurance companies from discriminating against me as a recent survivor of stage 3 cancer. That wasn't enough for my dad. He voted for him anyway. Two years later, he left and divorced my mother after 48 years of marriage. Trump divided and ripped our family apart."
During the closing night of the Los Angeles Latino International Film Festival in 2021, Ferrer asked himself, "Why don't I have a film here?" The answer was always the same: "It was because I hadn't made up my mind to do it. The only obstacle was me."
Studies show that family relationships are more critical than screen time for teens seeking emergency help for self-harm issues. Economic security significantly impacts teen well-being, far outweighing the effects of screen time.
Thousands of families in Ukraine face significant relationship stress due to the prolonged absence of loved ones at war, exacerbated by the ongoing hardships of the conflict.
If this really bothers you, or if you're genuinely concerned that this might come back to bite him or his family, the best place to start is an honest conversation with your nephew.
